I've written two posts this morning, long posts too. One on identity and one on racism. Then I scratched them both.
Stephanie said yesterday - write something positive! Then Brian said today, "I miss your writing." The two comments combined stirred me up to write, but I am not happy with anything that came out. Maybe another day.
For now, I would like to know - I get about three comments every time I post my guts for the public to peruse. Have I lost you guys completely? Are you so bored with baby pictures and nonsense about birthing woes that you're no longer reading? Or is it because my commenting friends just don't have an opinion about what I'm saying? Inquiring minds want to know.
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I'm not sure if I qualify as one of your "commenting friends" but I'll take a stab at this one just in case.
I'm still here. I've probably slacked off commenting not because I'm not here or don't have an opinion, but probably because almost anything I can think to say in response to some of your heavier posts just all seem trite.
Obviously I haven't been there and don't know what you are going through so even if I feel like I understand or have something to say, I just assume it will sound stupid. It seems like you've become a part of such a great support system of people online that do actually know what you are going through so I guess I've been deferring to them to come up with something to say.
For what it is worth, we have been thinking about your family and I know it's been tough lately.
We'll be in Montgomery at least a couple of times over our Christmas trip. I can't believe Asher will be a whole YEAR older than last time we saw him. Very strange.
If you want to know what I think, see what's up at my place for you.
I was commenting from time to time but I never got any response to any of them nor did I ever really get comments on my own blog so I just assumed my comments were not the right kind. I've said before my thoughts on loss especially that of miscarriage as I have also been through it but they weren't really acknowledged either. Maybe they sounded condescending like valerie was afraid of (although they would never be intended that way). I still read. Just don't comments so much anymore. Sorry.
Emily L., I'm sorry I didn't respond. If I'm going to ask people to speak up, it's only fair that I answer them when I do. I'll be better about that. Sorry. And I love the pictures of Baby Bean the witch! So cute.
As far as sounding trite or condescending, there really just isn't anything good to say. Still, after a while I was beginning to wonder if anyone wa still reading. So it's good to hear from you guys.
I too read everything you write, but coming from different circumstances (no children, etc...) I don't usually know what to say. If it is any help at all my thoughts are always with you when I read your posts and between your blog and my time with Brian I try to keep up with what is going on.
We all seem to get in to "comment lethargy" granted not every post warrants a comment I'm sure (most everything on my blog being a prime example), but I know having comments makes it worth continuing. Laura has expressed frustration as we all have from time to time about not wanting to write because no one seems to read and if they do they don't bother to post comments. We could all improve I'm sure (me being first in line).
I comment. So, I guess I am not who you are asking.
I don't get a ton of comments myself, so I am not sure.
Going for comment number 10 :) I too often feel like what would I have to add - I've experienced loss, but not in the same way - and the words of people like Emily (both ones) and other mothers seem to be what you need more than my words. but know that with every post i read - i am always praying for you, even if i'm not commenting. its funny, we seem to have an ebb and flow of comments - sometimes they are overwhelming, other times why we even bother. but like valerie, i keep blogging (and reading others) because it is a way of keeping up with my loved ones that are SO very far away right now. and i also have to remember not to compare myself to other blogs - i view Emily's page and see 24 comments - and then see my page where i'm "suffering in hong kong" (or whatever pitiful mood i'm in at the time) and get two, maybe three comments. but then again, i don't blog for the comments (well, maybe a little bit i do) - i blog because it is a release - a place for my thoughts to come together.
so, all that to say, i'll try to be better at commenting. hopefully you will too. i havent seen a comment from you in awhile - though i was pumped to find a link to my picutre's page...thank you!! :)
oh! and can we pleeeeease read what you wrote on identity and racism? i would love to read them!
I would definitely like to read your post about identity and racism.
As for my commenting, I am trying to comment only when I have something authentic to say. Most of the time, there is something to say but I will tell you that I likely won't comment on baby pictures. It's just not my thing.
I do think commenting is important though (they're important to me, too) and I will definitely speak up more often. :)
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